April 22, 2011

From the New Jersey Jewish News: Worth a Read and a Smile

Each week NJJN's Editor-in-Chief Andrew Silow-Carroll makes me thing through his insightful articles. This week he made me smile. 


This piece was originally published in the NJJN and can be found here on the NJJN Web site. 

Ask an angry rabbi

Andrew Silow-Carroll
For about 10 minutes in my 20s, I had thoughts of becoming a rabbi. I like to speak in front of an audience, I like to learn Torah, and I’d like a reserved parking space. But at some point I realized that while I may be good at sermonizing, there were other aspects of the rabbi’s job I might not be good at — like, for example, all of them. Visiting the sick? My bedside manner is atrocious. Relating to young people? I am as uncomfortable around teenagers today as I was as a teenager. Inspiring people spiritually? The closest I ever came was when my mother would look at the mess in my bedroom and yell, “Oh God!”
To give you the idea of the gift I gave to the world by not becoming a rabbi, here’s a taste of the kind of advice I’d offer the faithful:
Dear Rabbi: As an Ashkenazi Jew, I was raised with the rule that, unlike Sephardi Jews, we couldn’t eat kitniyot on Passover — no beans, rice, peas, lentils, or corn. I understand that the Conservative movement is more lenient in allowing exceptions for Ashkenazim. So can I go ahead and eat kitniyot?
Answer: Passover is, what, eight days? You can’t do without rice or lentils for eight days? How often do you eat lentils in a normal week? Yes, there are a lot of “do nots” during Passover, but take away the bread, flour, and beer and you still have more choices than about half the people on the planet do on a daily basis. Suck it up.
Dear Rabbi: We have a new cantor, and he has begun to introduce new tunes for familiar prayers like “Adon Olam” and “Lecha Dodi.” To me, synagogue is all about tradition, and I am uncomfortable with the innovations. Should I raise this with the board?
Answer: Do you know what bothers me more than new tunes? The sound of whining. Unless your cantor is a fan of Arnold Schoenberg, I am willing to bet the new tunes are not only a nice change of pace but are relatively easy to learn. Remember the old rule: Do something three times and it’s a tradition. If I can get used to a new Windows program every two years, you can handle a fresh “Ein Keloheinu.”
Dear Rabbi: I saw the new Broadway musical The Book of Mormon and I don’t understand how people can believe in a religion that seems so obviously implausible. I used to wonder the same thing about my Catholic friends, who believe that Jesus is the son of God. Are people generally unintelligent, or just gullible?
Answer: This he asks a rabbi. Listen, friend, religions by their nature are mysterious and address human needs that can’t be met through rational discourse. You’ve heard of the Burning Bush? Bilaam’s talking donkey? That’s our book, and trust me, I wouldn’t want a fact-checker at The New Yorker to take a whack at it. The point is, all religions are weird, in the Oxford English Dictionary sense: “mysterious or unearthly…unaccountably or uncomfortably strange.” That’s their power.
See what I mean? I’ll stick to newspapers. But I would like that parking space.
Andrew Silow-Carroll is Editor-in-Chief of the New Jersey Jewish News. Between columns you can read his writing at the JustASC blog.

April 7, 2011

From NJJN: Reform rabbis: Leader an ‘inspired’ choice



by Johanna Ginsberg
NJJN Staff Writer
March 30, 2011

Local Reform rabbis are hailing the nomination of Rabbi Richard Jacobs as fifth president of the Union for Reform Judaism as an “inspired” choice.

They are lauding his innovative work in synagogue life, his commitment to social justice, and his charisma.

Jacobs, who will succeed the retiring Rabbi Eric Yoffie of Westfield, is the senior congregational rabbi at the Westchester Reform Temple in Scarsdale, NY. In announcing the recommendation of the 55-year-old Jacobs, the 900-synagogue URJ said he stood ready to make more Reform synagogues “vibrant and inclusive.”

“The congregational world is changing, and having someone who has been part of it will help in the decisions and support the URJ will provide,” said Rabbi Mark Kaiserman of Temple Emanu-El of West Essex in Livingston.

“Rick is forward-thinking, innovative, charismatic, and the ‘real deal,’” said Rabbi Daniel Cohen of Temple Sharey Tefilo-Israel in South Orange.

Cohen called Jacobs’ pulpit experience “one of the most significant things about the choice.”

"To have someone take over the leadership of our movement who knows the challenges of, achievements by, and importance of synagogue life intimately can only serve all our congregations well," he said.

Cohen also called the choice a savvy one, since Jacobs was involved in the Rabbinic Vision Initiative, a group of leaders from large synagogue voicing concern over the challenges facing the movement.

Rabbi Matthew Gewirtz of Congregation B’nai Jeshurun in Short Hills, who first met Jacobs more than a decade ago, called him an “outstanding” choice.

They met when Gewirtz was a student at Hebrew Union College and Jacobs came to serve as scholar-in-residence.

“I was immediately taken with his ability to connect with students one on one,” said Gewirtz. “He has a generous manner, and when he gave a sermon, I was moved by his extraordinary ability to communicate — his mere presence was as important as what he’d say.”

Jacobs, said Gewirtz, “knows how to make each person feel he is talking to them. He can say something of depth and reach the depth of each person.”

More recently, Gewirtz spent time with Jacobs after accepting his current position at B’nai Jeshurun in 2006, in part to learn how to carve his own leadership niche at an already successful and thriving congregation. Jacobs himself succeeded the prominent Rabbi Jack Stern at Westchester Reform Temple.

“He knew how to honor his predecessors and chart his own course and really move the congregation forward to where Reform Judaism was heading,” said Gewirtz. “His congregation has become a model of what a suburban Reform congregation could be.”

Beyond the walls
Cohen is looking to Jacobs to offer a "big tent" that will accommodate Reform Jews of all stripes but will also focus on education.

“Having grown up in a Reform Judaism that was rooted in the concept of ‘informed choice,’ I hope we can speak more loudly than ever about educating ourselves as Jews and then respecting the wide range of choices Reform Jews make with regard to their personal and familial observance,” he said.

Rabbi David Levy of Temple Shalom in Succasunna, who doesn’t know Jacobs personally, focused on his track record, especially as a director of Synagogue 2000 and Synagogue 3000, a think-tank that focuses on revitalizing synagogues.

“I love that he was involved with Synagogue 2000 and Synagogue 3000 because that whole movement of synagogue transformation has brought new energy to synagogue life,” said Levy.

Gewirtz said he expects Jacobs to reach outside the synagogues.

“Jacobs has made it clear that whole segments of our community are not affiliated, not because they are not Jewishly engaged, but because they have not found a way to connect to a Jewish institution,” said Gewirtz. “He’s out there beyond congregational walls connecting to people in their 20s and 30s and empty-nesters.”

Jacobs is also known for his interest in social action, helping in places like Darfur and Haiti, serving on the board of the American Jewish World Service, and “greening” his synagogue.

“I love that he has deep roots in social justice. Social justice brought me to the rabbinate and to Temple Shalom,” said Levy.

Rabbis are also looking for his creative thinking to ground the movement.

“Rabbi Jacobs is particularly skilled at thinking outside the box, and this is something we very much need today,” said Rabbi Steven Kushner of Temple Ner Tamid in Bloomfield. “We need new ways to conceptualize the synagogue, new ways to think about what it means to be an authentic Jew, and especially how we understand Jewish responsibility to both the Jewish and the world communities.”

Jacobs has also spoken out in support of the Islamic center near Ground Zero in Manhattan, is chair of the pluralism grants committee of the New Israel Fund, and a member of the rabbinic cabinet of J Street, the “pro-Israel, pro-peace” lobby.

Conservative critics, including the Zionist Organization of America and Commentary magazine, have criticized his involvement in NIF and J Street; the ZOA issued a release saying it is concerned “at the prospect of the Reform movement becoming a captive of the beliefs and actions of both organizations.”

Rabbi Laurence Groffman of Temple Sholom of West Essex in Cedar Grove brushed aside such criticism.

“The question is, What role does the URJ president’s personal views play in his presidency? While his own views on issues are obviously an important factor, the president does not and cannot unilaterally impose his views on the entire movement,” said Groffman. “Sure, he can set a tone and a direction, but what we need is a vibrant dialogue within the movement that takes into account all views on the political spectrum, and I imagine Rabbi Jacobs will value the various perspectives held by people in Reform Judaism.”

Cohen said, “I do not, however, believe that Rabbi Jacobs sitting on the rabbinic board of J Street will make J Street the de facto American group supporting Israel any more than my participation in AIPAC's Policy Conference in May makes it the defacto organization of my temple.”

Kaiserman added: “I have little concern about Rabbi Jacobs’ politics or positions. The next leader of the Reform movement has to be bold, creative, and vibrant. His or her organizational links are again not the values that matter. It is his character.”

The URJ board of trustees will vote on Jacobs’ nomination at its June 2011 meeting.

[An earlier version of this article inadvertently omitted comments by Rabbi Daniel Cohen of Temple Sharey Tefilo-Israel in South Orange. This version has been updated to include his comments.]

April 6, 2011

TSTI Teens in Action: Molly Greenstone

We have amazing teens here at TSTI and here is yet one more example. Today's (April 6, 2011) Star Ledger has a story about Livingston teen Sydney Becker, her battle with cancer and the amazing fundraiser conceived and organized by TSTI teen Molly Greenstone and her friend Casey Baer. As the article notes:

Casey Baer and Molly Greenstone, two of Sydney’s 7th-grade friends from Heritage Middle School, also brainstormed a fundraiser to benefit Make Some Noise, a pediatric cancer research foundation. On Sunday, more than 1,000 people turned out for an event called Strike Out Pediatric Cancer, which raised about $30,000 for cancer research, said Mitch Katz, a family friend and one of the event’s organizers.
We could not be more proud of Molly, her friends and all the people who joined with her for this great purpose.

Here is the full piece...

Community rallies around 12-year-old Livingston girl with rare bone cancer
Published: Wednesday, April 06, 2011, 8:00 AM



LIVINGSTON — Sydney Becker’s favorite color is pink — a neon, bubblegum-colored hue that pops. It’s the color of the wig she started wearing when her hair fell out from chemotherapy, and it’s also the color of the matching Converse sneakers she wears pretty much everywhere because her leg brace prevents her from wearing most shoes.
Until a few months ago, Sydney was a average Livingston 12-year-old, going to dance classes, reading the Harry Potter books and watching movies with her friends. Then in October, the softball fanatic hurt her leg sliding into third base during a playoff game for her traveling team.
When her knee still hurt two months later, her parents took her to a specialist. The doctor ordered a routine X-ray and found a tumor on her left tibia, or shin bone.
In January, Sydney was diagnosed with osteosarcoma, a rare form of bone cancer that the American Cancer Society says strikes about 400 U.S. children and adolescents a year and accounts for about 3 percent of childhood cancers. Overall, about 900 cases are diagnosed annually in the nation.
Friends, family and neighbors rallied quickly, cooking meals, providing rides to Sydney’s two siblings and offering moral support, said her father, Jeff Becker. That support was invaluable to Sydney’s stunned family.
"She went from being perfectly fine with no worries to two weeks later, spending every day in the hospital," Becker said.
Casey Baer and Molly Greenstone, two of Sydney’s 7th-grade friends from Heritage Middle School, also brainstormed a fundraiser to benefit Make Some Noise, a pediatric cancer research foundation. On Sunday, more than 1,000 people turned out for an event called Strike Out Pediatric Cancer, which raised about $30,000 for cancer research, said Mitch Katz, a family friend and one of the event’s organizers.
"There has been so much support," Sydney said this week. "It’s sad that it takes something so terrible to make people come together, but I am trying to stay positive."
Sydney said her friends wanted to help her recovery efforts but couldn’t drive carpools or cook dinner. They came up with they idea to do a fundraising run/walk, and that evolved into the softball-themed event to honor Sydney.
Raising the money for Make Some Noise was a no-brainer, Sydney said, because the organization has been so helpful to her in the past few months by putting her in touch with other pediatric cancer patients.
"Talking to other people my age is helpful, and especially people who have been through it," she said. "Adults try to be reassuring, but they don’t know what it’s like, and these kids do because they did the same thing."
Today, Sydney will have surgery at Memorial Sloan Kettering in New York to replace her tumor-infected bone with titanium. That, combined with another five months of chemotherapy, should keep the cancer from coming back, her father said.
Despite her illness, Sydney tries to keep busy. On Monday night she went to a Yankee game and got a special tour of the new stadium, and she is studying for her bat mitzvah next month.
She keeps an online journal chronicling her experiences,  www.caringbridge.org/visit/sydneybecker, and also posts photos. She is particularly proud of the one that portrays her, grinning and bald, with actor Daniel Radcliffe, Harry Potter’s screen persona, whom she met last week after seeing him perform on Broadway in the play "How To Succeed In Business Without Really Trying."
Sydney knows her surgery will keep her off the softball field for a while, but she’s hoping to be back in a few seasons, playing her favorite sport once again.
"I probably will not be running or sliding too much," she said, "but I am going to do the best I can."